Zero Hour Approaches…

So I have just one day left in Panama City FL, till I move to sunny Fort Lauderdale.  As many of you know I’ve been planning this move for nearly six months now. So for me the last few days have been somewhat surreal. I keep looking at places and thinking wow I wonder when I will see this next, I wonder when I will drive down this road again. While there are a few things I will miss about my home for the past 28  years there are also many that I wont. It’s a trade off and I’m hoping.. No I’m SURE that I will have a much better life in Fort Lauderdale.

I’m going to miss the few friends I have here in town at least until I can convince them to move down too.  like my very good friend Brad. If somebody had asked me if the two of us would become such good friends 2 years ago I would have flat out said NO! But over the past year and a half we have become great friends and I shall truly miss him. He came down this weekend from Montgomery Alabama to see me off. We partied hard all weekend long and I had such a blast. Our friend John came out as well. I never got to know John very well he had briefly dated my best friend nick for a month or so. But he is a very sweet person and a lot of fun to be around and boy can he dance… Gonna miss you John.

So with the crazy weekend behind me I  still have a bit of packing to do and some more stuff to sell. I hope I can get it all taken care of TODAY! I plan on setting sail around 7:00pm tomorrow evening. I’m working right up until I move. Going to make a short day out of it and leave at 3:00 come home and have a nap for a few hours then pack and hit the road.

I’m really going to miss my job here. Even though I bitch about it a lot, I did really love it. I mean come on who wouldn’t love to get paid well to sit and watch TV for 9 hours a day. Can you beat that anywhere? But off to greener pastures it’s time for a change and change is a coming. I’m somewhat burnt out on the cellular industry, and I believe that a career change is in order. I have an interview on Friday at LA Fitness, as a sales lead. A few of you may know that I have lost a lot of weight over the past year and a half.  All the working out and getting healthy has really sparked my interest and it has become something that I really enjoy doing. I’m hoping to break into the world of Personal Training sometime within the next few months. So getting this job at a very large gym will be the first step of many towards reaching my goal.

I’ve spent this weekend saying “Goodbye” to many of my friends and family, I had an awesome dinner at my dad’s house with my mother, father, brother and sister in law. I couldn’t have asked for a better last evening to spend with them. Even though were not a very close family they are still my family and I’m going to miss them. I’ve said goodbye to all my friends, and I hope to see them again soon. I’m sure we will keep in touch with the wonders of social networking sites. But It would be nice to actually get to SEE them again.

So I’m sure I’m going to be spending the next few weeks saying “HELLO” to all the new people I’m going to encounter in my new home. I’ve been speaking to many people over the past few months on various networking sites and feel like many will become close friends. And I’m sure I’m going to meet even more people out and about. Who know’s maybe I will even find “the one”! I know keep dreaming right?

So in closing I’d like to say goodbye to all of my friends and family it’s been a great 28 years and to Panama City FL, my home for most of my life, I shall miss you… but only a little. 🙂

TopherB.

P.S. – Just a warning to my friends. I will be driving at night and may get sleepy so you may get a surprise phone call from me at some point in the night… loves ya 😉

Here I come…

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Gay, Straight, Bisexual…

So my coworker and I were sitting around talking about sex in the office. I know we had nothing better to do right. But the topic of gay guys having sex with straight guys came up. I had mentioned that I’ve had sex with a few straight guys before and she said no Topher, If you  had sex with them they are not straight they are gay, or bisexual at the least. However I have a different view on this.

To me having sex with a man does not make you Gay, or Bisexual. It just means you enjoy having sex one way or the other. In my opinion, and I may be alone in this but to be “Gay” or “Bisexual” you must have feelings for the person. Or be interested in perusing more than just sex with them. For example I have a straight friend that I’ve hooked up with on several occasions we shall call him “J”. Well the sex with J was fantastic, we have both topped and bottomed for each other and all in all had a great time. But J only dates or has romantic interest’s in women. In my opinion that does not make him Gay or bisexual. The man reason is because there is not attraction or feeling there.  It’s “just sex”. I know some people would say that for him to have sex with another man he must be attracted to him a little. I’ll answer that and say possibly sure. But I’ve found a few girls attractive but I would never date them, or peruse anything romantic with them.

I read an articl a few months ago that was talking about the Gay porn industry and how more and more straight guys are turning to gay porn because they are paid much more than doing straight porn. There were some among the gay community that were upset about this because they felt that straight men were profiting off of gay men and falsely portraying themselves as gay men while having sex with other gay and sometimes straight men. I personally have no problem with this. In fact I find it very arousing. But the interview with some of the straight porn stars basically went along the lines of “we enjoy having sex, It’s a job to us nothing more”  When asked if they thought of themselves as bisexual they said no not at all. I just enjoy having sex if it’s with a guy or a girl but only have feelings for girls. A few of them are even married and have children. One of my personal favorite sites is http://www.corbinfisher.com and a lot of there models are straight. But to them it’s a job nothing more.

I think that who a person chooses to sleep with does not determine there sexual orientation. I believe that is a matter for the heart to decide. But my coworker believes that the act of sex alone determines your sexual orientation. So if a straight man has sex with another man he is bisexual or a closeted gay man. Now I can see where she is coming from, to some people sex means more than just sex. There is a lot of emotion behind it, and I can see why somebody who feels that way would see it that way. As opposed to somebody like me who believes there is two types of sex. The emotional kind where you are in love with the person, and it is a way of expressing your love for each other. And then there is just sex, or more commonly referred to as “Hooking up or a Hook up” where there is no emotion or feelings behind it. Your both just there to have a good time and then part ways, maybe to “hook up” again and maybe not. I see no problems with this we all have urges and lets face it sex is better than masturbation. Well most of the time…

So I’m curious as to your views on the subject. So please leave me some comments tell me what you think, I’m very curious to see if I”m the only one that feels this way or if there are others out there.

Thanks

Topher

Date or No Date…

So this blog is about two dates I went on with my good friend Miguel. I’ll attempt to break it down as best as I can remember them.

This all came about last Friday while I was out at Splash bar in Panama City Beach. I was hanging out with some of my friends and we were all chatting. I was talking to my friend Miguel who is a local radio dj on island 106’s radio show in the morning “That guy Kramer”. He recently asked a person he had interest in out on a date. And if you don’t know Miguel that’s a big deal for him. He is pretty much clueless when it comes to dating. I guess I am too. Well he was there with his date, and we were all having a good time. I don’t remember exactly how I opened I’d had umm a few drinks by now. But it went something like “” So Miguel and I went out on two dates I guess I was just too boring for him he never called me back”” If you could see the look on Miguel’s face it was priceless. He froze mid sentence and said “WHAT”  they were DATES! I said yes Miguel they were dates. We were just hanging out as friends he replied. I said no I had a romantic interest in you. He was totally shocked that they were dates.  It was quite funny. We talked some more and he apologized said he was not aware they were dates and thought we were just hanging out as friends. blah blah blah night went on…

So let me tell you about the dates.

Date 1) I texted Miguel to see if he would like to go to movie, I really wanted to see 2012 and so did he. He was a little worried about it being so long and so late at night because he get’s up very early in the morning for work. But I convinced him to come along. I picked him up at his house and we headed off to Pier Park to watch 2012 at the Grand Theater. We chatted a bit in the car and on the walk up to the ticket booth. where he walked up to the booth first and paid for his ticket. I would have paid had he not gotten there first. But anyway moving a long. We went in he got himself some popcorn and we sat down to watch our movie. Now we had some great conversation about each other while we were waiting for the movie to start. We talked about our family where we grew up our friends what we liked about our jobs, normal stuff when your trying to get to know somebody. The movie started and we watched intently. There was no hand holding or anything going on. I’m a bit shy on first dates. Our elbow’s grazed each other a few times when I put my arm on the arm rest, but he would always move his off of it. ;*( we shared some popcorn and just watched the movie. I took him home after and dropped him off. I had a great time got to know him a bit better. So I texted him the next day asking if he had fun and wanted to do it again sometime. But he never responded so I didn’t want to be push and text him a million times. I just let it go.

Date 2) This was a few weeks later, sometime in early January. Miguel and I had seen each other a few more times out at Splash. I texted him one night asking if he wanted to go out to dinner to Long Horns, and he said yes. So I went and picked him up again, we road out to Pier park again. We walked in and “awkward” a guy I hooked up with a few times was the host, and apparently he and Miguel were friends. LOL. so we sat down waited for our table had some casual conversation. Got to the table and continued talking about each other. I thought it was going quite well.  Well the server asked us will these be together or? I had full intention of paying that night I had asked him out to dinner Plus I had a gift card but he said no separate, He had a gift card too that he was going to use.  So we paid and chatted for a bit then got up and I took him home and dropped him off again. This time I waited a few days to text him and see if he wanted to do something again but our schedule’s were just to conflicting if i remember correctly. He did at least reply this time. So after a few weeks had gone by I had pretty much just giving up all hope and decided to myself we are just going to be friends, he’s not interested.

Monday morning I get into the car to head to work. I was a bout to turn on the ipod when I decided to see what the topic of the day was on “That guy Kramer” and I got there just in time as they were starting a new segment. And it started like this. I was sitting at splash Saturday night.. and I thought oh god.. Please don’t be talking about what we had spoken about.. please please. But sure enough they were. I listened intently on my way to work. and then i heard the words. We can settle this right now.. Lets call him.  Now i’m thinking in my head oh god should I answer or not?  So they called and I did answer and we all laughed and spoke and it was an interesting experiance to say the least. I had never been on the radio until that time. But it was quite funny. Here is a link to the bit if you all would like to hear it.

http://podcasting.fia.net/6176/4265503.mp3

Now me and Miguel are pretty good friends now and I believe he is dating a great new guy I hope it works out for them. It would not have worked for us anyway as I’m moving in a few days.

But what do you guys think. Was this a date or not? Leave your comments below.

Thanks for reading

Topher

Put a Stamp on it…

So many of you know I work for a Verizon Wireless agent. We sell Verizon phones and service Verizon accounts. The one thing we do not do in my store is process check payments. Every night when we leave we put a sign on the door that reads ” Please do not slide payments under the door they will NOT be processed”. Well about three weeks ago a customer clearly did not heed that warning and slid a payment under the door. When I walked in the next day I thought to myself “really??” do you not know how to read. But after picking up the payment slip things just got even better. It was a sprint payment slip. Now I’m like is this person really that stupid that they couldn’t read all the signs that say VERIZON VERIZON VERIZON everywhere?

So being the nice person I am I opened the payment slip to see if there was contact info for the customer so they could come pick up there payment. However there was only a name and address no phone number. So I went one step further and called Sprint customer care and informed them of the situation and they tried to contact the customer to let them know they needed to come pick up the check. But nobody answered the phone when the rep called. So he gave me there contact number so I could contact them a little later.

So I tried calling the customer several time’s over the next two weeks left 5 or 6 different messages. Well today I get a call from Sprint customer service asking if I still had the check. I said I sure do,  so the rep conference calls the customer in on the call with me and she is demanding to know why I had not processed her payment. I said, “Mrs customer you dropped off your Sprint bill at a Verizon store. I have no way of processing your payment. Her responce was, “and why not”. I informed her that we are two different company’s and I have no way of processing a Sprint payment. Well at this time the Sprint rep chimes in and said “I’m sorry I did not realize that you were a Verizon store, and proceeds to try and explain to the customer that I can not take the payment there. So she fires back well you could have just mailed it. I said no I couldn’t, we don’t have stamps in the store and I would have had to buy stamps myself and mail it and I’m not allowed to do that.  At this point she’s boiling over I can here the anger dripping from her mouth over something this stupid. So she said well I’m sorry you don’t get paid enough to be able to afford a stamp I’ll just come get the damn check.  I did my best to remain professional and I informed her “well I’m sorry you cant tell the difference between a Verizon store and a Sprint store and your check will be waiting for you.  She hung up and the Sprint rep was apologizing to me and said he was not too sure about that but could see in the notes where I had called in several weeks ago about this. So he noted the account and I hung up.

Well about 2 hours later the customer comes into the store to get the check and I was all pleasant with her when she walked in and she’s like I’m here to pick up my check I said oh ok. got the check out and handed it to her. She proceeded to say I cant believe you couldn’t mail this for me and she threw a $5 bill on my counter and said there. Next time somebody needs a stamp take it out of that. I tried to tell her that we can not take money like that but she just scooped up her check and walked out the door.

So to the sprint customer all I have to say is thanks for the $5 it paid for my lunch today, and next time you wish to make your payment perhaps you should “Put a stamp on it” and mail the damn thing!

Topher

A New Life…

So a little update. It’s now 31 days till I make the big move to Fort Lauderdale. Time is passing by so fast now it feels like tomorrow I leave. This past year has been so great for me.  So many changes I look back a year and I don’t even know who I was back then.  My whole outlook on life has changed completely. I’m not the shy fat kid in the corner anymore. Now i’m bouncing around meeting new people and trying new things. I guess loosing 95 pounds will do that to you.

This year I decided was a new year I wanted to start a new life for myself. So in 31 days I’m packing up the Mustang and we are heading to sunny Fort Lauderdale Florida. Talk about starting over. Only taking what I can fit in my car, and I’ll only know 2 people when I get there. My best friend Nick and his boyfriend Eddie, whom I’ll be staying with till I can get on my feet. I’ve already been online meeting lots of nice people so I have a long list of new friends to make when I get there.

In honor of this New Life I’m building for myself. I decided to go get a tattoo yesterday with my friend Brad. I’d been debating the idea of getting one for several months now and had come to the conclusion that I really wanted one but it had to have meaning to me. Not just some random star or something. So I got a Japanese Kenji tattoo that means “A New Life” and I must say I’m quite pleased with it. It was not nearly as painful as I thought it was going to be, and I’m already planning my next one.

So this will serve as a reminder to me every time I look at it that my life will never go back to the way it was.  I’ve got a busy time ahead of me with lots to do and lots of new people to meet and new things to try. Should prove to be an interesting year ahead.  I’ll keep you all posted 😉

So more to follow soon. I promise to start posting more I know I kinda slacked off there for a while but you will be hearing more from me soon 😉

Thanks for reading

c.

BEST DAY EVER!!!!

… I know it’s been a while sense i blogged but I felt like I wanted to share my success with everybody 😉

So we all know my struggle with weight loss. But for though’s of you that are new readers let me sumerize. I started out last year at 280 pounds. I was very out of shape very over weight drinking at least a 2 liter of soda per day or more, eating fast food all the time never working out. Well last year on Jan 1st I made a commitment to myself like so many others that day that I was going to get in shape and loose the weight. So I joined a gym and got a personal trainer to help me reach my goal.

… Fast foward a year and 3 months and I’ve gone from 280 pounds to 200 pounds that’s a loss of 80 pounds in a year. Could have been more had I not stopped working out for about 5 months. But what can ya do I reinvested in my goal Jan 1st of this year my goal has been 170 pounds sense I started and while I’m not there yet i’m well on my way.

For the past two months I’ve been stuck at 200 pounds. I felt like I had stopped loosing the weight. But after a time I realized I had in fact been loosing the fat, but I had been putting on a lot of muscle. And for though’s of you that don’t know, muscle weight’s more than fat. So I had gone down another 2 pants sizes. I noticed when I went shopping for new clothes. That’s when I realized that I had been on track this whole time. But.. still the number game I was stuck at 200. I did some research online and found a AWESOME website that has loads of information and instruction videos. http://www.muscleandstrength.com/ You should check it out if your thinking about getting fit, or if you just have questions about things. So I decided to change my work out program from doing an upper body day and lower body day twice a week to a 6 day a week program working out 2 muscle groups per day with one day off, and doing more cardio 1 hour in the morning and 1 hour at night every day. This has helped me tremendously! I feel like I’m getting a much better workout and can see more results this way than I ever did on my old routine.

Well after two weeks on this new program I decided to weigh myself again today and what do you know IT’S WORKING! I had a goal of dropping another two pounds in two weeks to get under 200 but I not only lost the two pounds but I blew it out of the water and lost 6 POUNDS IN TWO WEEKS!!! That brings me down to 194 pounds now. I feel AMAZING!! I’ve never felt so good in my life. I have so much energy now, my mood has improved considerably. I’m way more outgoing than I was when I was 280 pounds. I no longer want to just sit at my computer and play video games but I actually like to get out and do stuff. I’m thinking about taking up a sport. “I know right THAT’S CRAZY TALK CHRIS” But it’s just one more hurdle on my journey. I can’t tell you how good it feels to be able to look in the mirror and see the changes that are happening to my body. Every day I feel better and better about myself. Not only that but it feels great to say to the people that never thought I could stick with it “HA I CAN AND DID”. And I also want to say THANK YOU to all my friends and family who have helped me a long the way that gave me the motivation to keep at it, and to not quit.

The road ahead is far shorter than the road behiend.

So for all of you who want a better body, or to just loose weight. If I can do it, so can you. YOU just have to stop saying SOMEDAY and start saying TODAY!!!

Topher.

Sucker Spam…

This I find quite funny and sometimes have a good laugh at it. But it’s getting to be quite annoying as well. This guy would be the 4th one this week alone to contact me on Myspace via the mail feature. At first his message seemed promising, like they all do.  his message read as follows.

“whats up? Im Nick, care to chat? hit me on yahoo if you have time. im compactnick on yahoo. oppps! nice to meet you.
ps: add me as your friend also if you dont mind. thanks in advance”

His profile can be found here http://www.myspace.com/517347270

Now my first thought after looking at his profile and pictures was wow he’s pretty cute. Read his profile Seemed like an interesting enough guy. Lets add him to yahoo and say hi.

So I open up my little Yahoo Messenger and quickly type in the hotties screen name. Yes he’s online, Lets say hi and see where this leads. here is how the conversation went.

vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:05:10 PM): hi
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:05:23 PM): hello
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:05:38 PM): what’s up
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:05:51 PM): not much, just laying here on bed just       “At this point I already knew how this would end”
on my briefs now
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:05:52 PM): you?
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:06:02 PM): same
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:06:25 PM): you single?
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:06:37 PM): yup
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:06:52 PM): what are you looking for in a man?   “wow he moves fast I thought”
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:07:13 PM): i dont know
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:07:25 PM): not looking for anything i’ll know it when i see it
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:07:49 PM): well for me the answer is just simple,   “lol is that all?? not hard to please are you”
i would love to have a good kisser and a good cuddler as well
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:08:22 PM): thats sweet
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:08:26 PM):
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:08:34 PM): how huge is your weapon if you dont mind me asking?        “lol this ? after 3 mins of conversation”
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:08:36 PM): but i think there’s more to a person than that
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:08:46 PM): and that’s a bit personal to ask right off the bat
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:09:30 PM): what do you do for living?
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:09:42 PM): lfeowij oiojiofew sdf
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:09:49 PM): what????
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:09:58 PM): sry lol oops
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:10:04 PM): i work for a cell phone company
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:10:09 PM): cool
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:10:12 PM): great job!
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:10:17 PM): it’s ok
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:11:38 PM): what about you?
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:12:45 PM): im an army
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:13:22 PM): kool
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:13:30 PM): where you stationed?
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:13:33 PM): iraq
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:13:42 PM): FYI: 15% of guys in the army are gays
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:13:46 PM): ahh
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:14:04 PM): i know i have a lot of friends in the air force that are gay
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:14:20 PM): how long you been deployed for?
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:14:20 PM): well infact i even managed to record some of my action in vids    “here’s what I was waiting for”
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:14:56 PM): OH YEAH?        “notice my fake excitement”
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:15:28 PM): actually i just uploaded my vids on gayworld last week,   “wow really how convenient for me”
vids of me jackin off in uniform and fucking my men in iraq, wanna check it out?
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:16:23 PM): sure
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:16:29 PM): here yah go
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:16:38 PM): http://nickmasterson45.weebly.com “DONT CLICK THAT LINK”
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:17:19 PM): let me know when your there for me to guide you okay?
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:17:28 PM): ok thanks i’ll never check it out but you have a nice day.. you guys are so funny   “Notice I said NEVER”
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:17:40 PM): thanks             “lol your welcome idiot”
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:17:49 PM): and predictable
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:19:08 PM): are you on my page yet?              “Clearly he’s not reading what I’m saying”
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:19:29 PM): lol.. no
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:19:38 PM): i’m not clicking a link from you silly
Nick Masterson (1/11/2010 10:20:03 PM): okay bye then
vorian26 (1/11/2010 10:20:27 PM): you guys crack me up i wonder how many ppl fall for you and think your a real person on the other end of the screen

I’m sure many of you have come across one or two of these guys if you have a Myspace page. I’ve never come across it on Facebook however. think that’s got to do with the stronger privacy settings. But Their conversations tend to all run in the same pattern as demonstrated above. It never fails. I remember once I was bored and spent about 30 minutes messing with one of them trying to get him to walk me through his website that I was never on. He eventually gave up on me and called me stupid and blocked me. I got a big kick out of that. I even had one guy that tried to convince me he lived in Panama City and had for years. But strangely enough could never answer any questions about the city. I wonder why? And he even got upset and defensive when I called him a spam bot. I believe his reply was ” I”m not fucking robot” Made my day 😉

But the danger in these “characters” is that the links they give you can be one of many things. They can either be a link to some website that will try and get you to register and ask for a credit card “only to verify your age” yeah right. Or it could be a site that will install mallware on your computer, even a key loger to record your user name and logins to various sites, including your bank account’s, if you do online banking. I really do wonder how many people fall for this trickery. It must be quite a few if they continue to do it.

So just a warning to you all to be on the look out.  Their chat conversations usually go along the lines of the one I posted above, and most of them come from Myspace.  So keep an eye out 😉

Topher.